Last night, I posted this on my IG account @charlene_ragsdale:
Attn: Shinny Shamers. You know who you are – those who are self-proclaimed “body image” experts who are a size 10, 12, 22 or whatever and decide that anyone who is a size 0, 2, 4 or 6 are unhealthy and have body issues. Ummm, no.
I am a size 7 / 8 and while I have aspects of my body I don’t like, I do not *hate* my body and I certainly don’t have body issues! How dare you think that skinny is not strong or more importantly how dare you tie strong with body size, any size. You claim you are against body shaming but you fail to see you are contributing to the problem. I don’t have body issues, I have hypocrite issues.
Let me tell you what strong is! A man or woman who has a chronic disease that makes them wonder if they are going to be able to take a step or get out of bed. A man or woman who battle a deadly disease who do not know if today is their last day on earth. A man or woman who goes to work every day to provide for their family and has no idea how they are going to pay for this week’s grocery bill. A man or woman who have overcome all the odds to be successful in their career. Strength is not defined by our appearance or our body size. Strength is running a race honestly, not demanding comps from any RD. Strength is showing class act and being an Ambassador to our sport. Are you even listening to yourself? Probably not. You are too busy deleting your social media comments and forging your social media following to look like the world worships the ground you walk on because you have decided that those who do not look like you, must have body image issues.
I am about being strong in life. Everyone has a different journey and finds their own sense of strength. Please step back and take a good hard look at what you are saying. You are influencing others and don’t fool yourself to believe it is a positive influence. How will you speak to your daughter or son when they are “skinny”? Would you speak to them how you are speaking to the masses on your social media pages? I would hope not. Truly.
You are a plus-size woman or man, you are not a size 2 (but, neither am I) and you are on a mission to help women and men improve their body image. Good for you, I am all for helping others feel better about themselves!
Within your public mission, you are shaming those who do not look like YOU. Yes you are, don’t even try to deny it. You are size 10, 12 or even a 22 and you are insulted that the media or others are posting pictures of someone who is skinnier than you and proclaim that others do not need to look that way. Are you listening to yourself?
You lash out at the media for their representation of healthy. Have you EVER considered that the model(s) in those pictures are seeing your rants and hissy fits? Don’t their feelings matter to you? Are the images photoshopped? Most likely they are, but they are representing people. How would YOU feel if someone slammed your body size? Ohhhh, I see – it is important to never shame a person who larger than yourself, but it is okay to insult those who are skinnier than you?
I have said it before and I will say it again – I am very comfortable of my size 7/8 body.
Stop assuming because I am thin, I am unhappy or hating my body.
I know I have the beefiest thighs you can imagine – have you seen my running pictures? (Thank you to my German DNA – it’s not going to change.) I have a flat chest that makes me look like a 12 year old boy. Take a look at the pro-elites like Desi Linden and many of the Kenyan runners, they don’t run in sports bra’s either. You wear what you want and I will wear what i want, okay? There are (stupid) stats that 70%+ of women dislike their bodies. Read that again, dislike their bodies. It does not mean we are in hiding or ashamed of our bodies! I am not a fan of my beefy legs and flat chest but I am not beating myself over it. Just because we don’t like something, doesn’t mean we are ashamed. Don’t put words into my mouth or into my head because you are not me or representative of our gender. You don’t speak for me as I don’t speak for you. The very thing you are preaching against, you are contributing to. By telling others what they SHOULD wear or HOW they should look to be strong, you have become a body shammer. Yes, you are a body shammer.
Please continue to empower others about accepting themselves but back off the shaming, would ya? Who are you to say that a woman who is a size 2 or 4 isn’t happy? Would you like it if someone told you that your size 10 is disgusting and you are not believing in yourself? I don’t think so.
Back of, mind your own business and empower others not shame. Deal? I will never tell someone what they should be wearing, it’s their choice. I suggest you do the same and stop telling skinny gals or guys to eat a burger, that is not the problem nor solution. There is NOTHING wrong with skinny. Skinny is healthy, stop making it out like it is not.
Empower, not shame. If you wish to comment or defend your shaming ways, please feel free to do so – I would be interested to hear how will justify your shaming all in the name of influencing others to accept themselves.
Charlene L. Ragsdale – Las Vegas, NV
~Blog Disclaimer – Click Here